"Pick a foot and get on it."  Preferably, not on your partner's.  This a phrase I say often when I teach.  It's because I'm always catching my students on both feet, weight split. I think it's because they're afraid to be on the wrong foot, so they're on both.  In ballroom dancing, you're rarely on both feet at the same time, weight equally split.  There are only a handful of split weight moves.  It's better to pick a foot and get on it.  You at least have a 50% chance of being right.  If you're on both, you're definitely wrong.  If you're the lead, it makes it difficult for the lady to follow your weight changes.  If you're the follow, you're not ready for the next move.  Life Lesson: Isn't it true that some of out most difficult times occur when we are indecisive?  We're "on the fence'. And when we're on the fence, we are filled with stress and anxiety.  We want to make the right decision.  Well, pick a foot and get on it.

"Indecision is often worse than wrong action." -Henry Ford.

Now, I'm the not suggesting we should hastily make decisions without considering consequences. God knows I've nearly been killed from some of my quick decisions.  It's the habit of indecision that is the problem.  It can cause more havoc than bad decisions.  As a leader, on the dance floor and off, your  indecision is felt. The people who follow you are relying on your decisiveness, not just because you always make the 'right' choices but because it's your role.

Dance tip:  To insure you have picked a foot and you're on it, raise the heel of the foot you did not choose.  This insures that you are fully committed.  And commitment is GOOD!

'Pick a foot and get on it.' You can always switch.